Tag: confidence

To be good you have to begin. To be better you have to continue.

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I recently came across this article about the realistic timeframe of what writers/authors/artists should expect in regards to becoming a full-time and/or self-sufficient in their craft. Ten years (that’s the answer), it seems both a long time, but kind of a realistic one to me. But ten years from what starting point? I had the desire to become a writer at the age of 13, but went to uni to do the right course at the age of 20. I didn’t self publish my first book until 2015, when I was 25.

Maybe it’s when I started to write a lot, which would have been from the age of 20 onwards as I had to write assignments. I still remember the compliment I got from one of my teachers in my last year of undergrad, in which she said that I had improved a lot since I began. One of the benefits of going to a smaller university 🙂

Will I become decent at the age of 30? Or maybe I’ll have to wait until later? But how long? When I think about the future I prove to myself that I do not have much long-term foresight for myself. Apart from writing and having a job to support myself, it’s seemingly pretty blank. But I suppose one of the benefits of  that is that I’ll be quite flexible in later life.

 

 

 

 

 

Almost there, I think.

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I am 109,000 words into The Cadetship at the moment and I’ve never felt better about it. The last two months have been unbelieveable in terms of what I can produce 🙂 So far I think I might have this work done in a month’s time max. I’m at a stage where I feel like I’m almost done, but yo know, I might be wrong. I know how my book ends I just need to get there 🙂

Practical ways to gain confidence.

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Found this post because you were feeling a bit shit about yourself because you feel like you don’t have confidence? Don’t worry. We all feel shit about ourself at one point or another. It’s how your deal with it that matters.

A lot of sites say to fake having confidence until you got. But shit dude, I’m not an actor and my lying skills are shit. How the hell do you fake something you don’t know much about if any at all?

In a nutshell I think confidence is just reassurance in your ability to complete tasks to a high/successful standard.

Tasks, any tasks like going out, starting/continuing an activity, doing a regular activity that you have stopped doing or conversing with people.

This can be done in three steps.

  1. To get your confidence back or build it you just have to start successfully completely tasks. Small ones if you’ve come from or recently left a background where you didn’t have a nurturing environment.
  2. Next is to remember the things you completed and did well. Write them down in a book or piece of paper and keep it in a place where if you ever feel down or shitty then go back over and have a look at it. It’s to remind you of your capabilities.
  3. When you look at what you are capable of then you realise that you can do bigger/more complex tasks. Eventually you have the confidence to do pretty much everything.